Can Relationships of Religious Difference work?

Having religious differences and belonging to different faiths can be one of the most difficult obstacles to overcome in relationships, and if you or your son or daughter is in this position it can be traumatic for all concerned.

When two people from different faiths decide to unite, it not only affects them, but their immediate families, extended families as well as their own family should they choose to have children.

Do you think such a relationship can work? If you’re in a relationship of different religious beliefs or considering entering one, here are some points to consider.

Family Support:

Religions that don’t permit marriage outside the faith can result in the family disowning them. In this instance the love between you needs to be strong enough to withstand being cut off from the family support system.

Converting to another Religion

Some religions are open to conversion, which is an excellent option if both people agree, however some faiths forbid it and see any other union as a betrayal.

Raising Children:

Children of parents with different religious backgrounds can be exposed to both faiths and make-up their own minds as they get older. They will then have an understanding of what both parents believe.

Can A Union of Different Faiths Work?

If each person accepts the others faith while still having their own, it can work, however, when the cost of being together is too great it’s up to both people to recognize this and walk away.
One thing is for sure; if your relationship survives the difficulties of religious faiths it will greatly strengthen the connection and love between you.

Jenifer Angel(Daily news)

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Teacher Deregistered Over Relationships

A high school teacher has been deregistered after developing inappropriate relationships with two of her female students.

Anne Caldwell was deregistered by the Teachers Council in February, for serious misconduct while working at Fairfield College in Hamilton, the Herald on Sunday reported.

According to the council's decision, the 40-year-old former computer teacher singled out one girl for special meetings and encouraged her to lie to her parents.

She received a warning after management discovered the relationship but continued a secret infatuation with a second student.

The decision said Caldwell:
* told the second girl she loved her and could not live without her;
* bombarded her with inappropriate texts over a sustained period;
* sent messages to her page on the Bebo social networking site; and
* resisted attempts by the student to end the friendship.

The offending came to light when the student complained to another teacher, who referred the girl to principal Julie Small.

Ms Caldwell said she was sad about losing her career but now felt deregistration was "something I deserved".

"My teaching is done and dusted. It was a fair decision and there are more appropriate jobs out there for me."

Ms Caldwell said she wanted to help the students but ended up falling in love with the second girl. She maintains she was just friends with the other.

She said she had no professional boundaries, abused a position of trust and was too emotionally immature for the classroom.

Ms Caldwell was ordered to pay $2000 costs.

She apologised to the two students, their parents and the school for putting them through an "emotionally challenging situation" but denied she was a "predator".(Stuff)

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Your Partner in "Creating Better Relationships"

Lusaka Marriage Insaka-"Creating Better relationships" through provision of quality Marriage, Love and Relationship resources and providing a forum to discuss Marriage Issues.

MarriageInsaka is an initiative which recognizes an individual and a family as the smallest unit of society and the world.
An Insaka is simply a gathering of elders in a village to discuss, educate or resolve any issues relating to the welfare of the village. The word also refers to the grass thatched shelter like were such meetings would normally be held. The word is from a Zambian tribe called Bemba however, different African tribes have this word though spelt and pronounced differently.

This site like an Insaka is a forum where the Zambian online community and the global community can meet to discuss, share, learn and educate one another on Marriages,Relationships and love through Marriage news and information relating to relationships.

The use of the word Marriage does not in any way imply that the site is restricted to married people and certain age  but is a mere indication that the site endeavors to provide quality and mature information about relationships and family life in a mature manner to the online community .A well known African proverb says ”if a child washes his hands he can eat with kings”. Therefore this site is for people willing to learn learn about Relationships,Marriage life as well as share tips, advice and ideas to better Relationships..

We believe Individuals develop personal relationships which in turn develop into marriages and then into families. The families form up communities, then nations and the world.

Sustainable relationships therefore depend entirely on the ability to solve problems and values/ principles on which Marriages and families are founded.

Lusaka Marriage Insaka therefore seeks to provide a platform through which personal, marriage and family problems can be brought out and allow readers to anonymously contribute solutions by way of comments which will in turn create a learning environment for the common problems faced by individuals, married couplesM and families. The forum will also provide educational information in form of Marriage articles,Relationship news feeds and links to other resources that will help nature relationships.

Lusaka Marriage Insaka is a social site and not a political news site. Therefore the forum will deal only with social topics that directly affect individual, marriage and family relationships.

If you have any marriage news, marriage articles or resource that you would like to share on this forum simply contact the editor by email.

Editor

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Lost Love Letter Reunites Couple After 16 Years

A British man and his Spanish former sweetheart have finally married 16 years after they drifted apart, reunited by a love letter lost behind a fireplace for over a decade, reports said on Monday.

Steve Smith and Carmen Ruiz-Perez, both now 42, fell in love 17 years ago when she was a foreign exchange student in Brixham, southwest England, and got engaged after only a year together.
But their relationship ended after she moved France to run a shop in Paris.

A few years later, in a bid to rekindle their love, Smith sent a letter to her mother's home in Spain. It was placed on the mantelpiece, but slipped down behind the fireplace and was lost for over a decade.
The missing missive was only found when builders removed the fireplace during renovation work.

"When I got the letter I didn't phone Steve right away because I was so nervous," Ruiz-Perez told the Herald Express local newspaper.

"I nearly didn't phone him at all. I kept picking up the phone then putting it down again.
"But I knew I had to make the call."

When they were reunited, it was as if time had stood still, said Smith, a factory supervisor.
"When we met again it was like a film. We ran across the airport into each other's arms. We met up and fell in love all over again. Within 30 seconds of setting eyes on each other we were kissing.

"I'm just glad the letter did eventually end up where it was supposed to be," he said, after the couple married last Friday.LONDON (AFP)

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Proven Ways of Dealing with a Break up.

Dealing with depression and break up is very difficult. But one need not get totally vexed about it. One should know where to start to get relief.

There are two proven ways to deal with a breakup. The first is to let it tear you apart and affect you negatively. The second is to learn from the breakup to make you strong. The phrase that which doesnt kill me makes me stronger is a great quote for motivation in using the second way.

Although a broken marriage or relationship may be the most difficult experience of your life, remembering that this is not what defines you will give you strength.
Probably you are cheated by the other partner. Consider how deep it is. Think about balancing it by proper counseling. Listen to people who know about this point better than you. Do not take your own decisions after coming to your own conclusions.

You must strive to gather your self and rise. After all, life is for living and not for dying. You choose to come out stronger and brighter. Let not the devil swallow you. Have new goals and new thoughts that are positive and helpful and encouraging. After a new gate opens, you will find that life is more meaningful and enjoyable.

Once you begin the healing process, you will begin to seek out new opportunities, experience, and excitement.

Continue to remain optimistic. Try to keep utilizing your positive energy to make both you and other happy that you are around.

The ending of a relationship is what you make it out to be. As the saying goes, every time one door closes, another one opens. Use this to your advantage. Find that open door.

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Learn the Art of Forgiving and Forgetting

When we make mistakes and make a point of apologizing every time, we think that the person should forgive us no matter how big our mistake was. But have we ever thought had it been us in that place would we forgive and forget the same way we want them to forgive us? Forgiving and Forgetting is an Art which can be learned.


Most often we don’t. This is because we don’t know and learn what forgiveness really means. To forgive a person completely you have to forget the mistake they made and move on with your relationship as if nothing happened. But to learn to forgive that way, you will have to make yourself extremely strong and powerful
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Your partner may not be right in justifying his/her position but you have to understand that without forgiving them you will have to face more problems in future.

Try to think positively about the matter and if possible tell your partner politely that what they did was wrong. You will have to do it without raising any issue of prejudice or discrimination. Tell them that things are now clear between the two of you and that both of you should try not to repeat such mistakes in future.

Understanding your partner’s emotions helps a lot in forgiving them. Think about the good times and the favors your partner did for you in the past. The two of you have survived a relationship this far means that you have been fulfilling each other’s needs and demands up till now. If something painful has come up now you should try your very best to forget it and move on with life.

Understanding your own sentiments and emotional turmoil you’re going through will also help you in forgetting what happened and forgiving your partner. You have needed each other’s support in the past and you are going to need it in future as well. So be positive about everything and talk things out fairly between yourselves.

If your partner is ready to apologize then listen to them sincerely and tell them honestly about your feelings. If you don’t sort things out right there and then, chances are you will never get another chance of straightening things out between yourselves. Your lack of gentleness might result in serious damage to your relationship.

Always remember that you are incapable of forgetting unless you really forgive. Accept your partner’s apology with genuineness and show by your actions that you have really forgotten whatever happened between the two of you.

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